How to Teach Your Child Appreciation

One of the struggles of parenting is feeling as if your kids are unappreciative. While some aspects of thankfulness come along with developmental milestones, there are things that we can do to help our kids better understand and express appreciation, and it’s beneficial for everyone! Those raised knowing how to feel and express gratitude are far more likely to grow up to be well-rounded individuals with greater self-efficacy and interpersonal skills.

Additionally, science shows that having an attitude of gratitude increases our body’s ability to recover from sickness and trauma and improves physical health and mental well-being overall. It supports self-esteem, enhances empathy, encourages compassion, improves sleep, and (as you can imagine) boosts our relationships with other people! There is nothing quite like that feeling when a loved one says, “I appreciate you!”

As with anything else of value in our lives, we must practice appreciation. We must help our children practice expressing that gratitude as we teach them the importance of feeling thankful for the good things and wonderful people in our lives. Below are some practical ways to help you learn how to teach your child appreciation.

How To Raise an Appreciative Child

Model Behavior

Kids are sponges; every parent knows they will pick up on mannerisms, words (good or bad!), actions, and even attitudes. They are constantly watching what their parents and other adults in their lives are doing, so we might as well use this to our advantage! Work on being grateful for what you have right now, and that will spill over to your kids.

When interacting with them, share frequently and generously and say please and thank you so that good manners are “what we do” and gratitude is “who we are,” not just what we say we do or what we tell our kids to do. Be intentional about modeling appreciation and gratitude, especially when your children are in earshot. They will learn more about the value of a simple “Thank you!” hearing you say it over and over again than they ever could by being told to do so. Teaching your child gratitude doesn’t always have to come from actual lessons. They learn kindness and appreciation by watching adults’ behavior. Parents should consistently demonstrate good manners and gratefulness whenever the opportunity presents itself.

Also, include your kids when writing thank you cards for Christmas or birthday gifts or making a quick phone call to thank a loved one for something they did. Be sure to thank them when they do something kind or helpful! They will be more apt to thank you for something if they first see you thanking them.

Utilize Crafts and Activities

Just as teachers use arts, crafts, and homework to reinforce a lesson, utilizing something tangible can often solidify the values we want to instill in our kids. Fortunately, there are many gratitude activities that you can do with your kids to help them practice expressing their appreciation. You can try a thankfulness tree, a gratitude jar, make a collage, playing gratitude games, volunteering, donating, making gratitude journals for kids, a family gratitude book, and so much more. Also, simply going around the dinner table saying what you are thankful for or reflecting on the day by noting the small things you enjoyed can help cultivate appreciation in your home and make gratitude one of the healthy habits for kids in your home.

Read Children’s Books

Books are a fantastic way to teach your children about appreciation and your family’s other core values. Reading to them from a young age and helping them learn to read recreationally can also reap lifelong rewards. Fortunately, there are many great children’s books about showing gratitude. The Giving Tree, The Blankful Heart, Giving Thanks with Max, Thanks a Million, and Llama Llama Gives Thanks are just five examples that emphasize thankfulness. Check out your local library or bookstore for more age-appropriate and engaging choices.

Pitfalls To Avoid

It is also important to note parents’ common mistakes when trying to help their kids be more appreciative. Sometimes, in our efforts to instill gratitude, we use approaches that look similar to gratitude but have unintended negative effects. It is essential to avoid the use of threats, flattery, coercion, comparisons, indebtedness, or punishments to try to manipulate our kids into being grateful for what they have. While we all want them to show appreciation, thankfulness has to happen in their hearts to become a lifelong habit, not simply done out of obligation or desire to please.

Overall, cultivating a lifestyle of gratitude and appreciation in your home and with your children is truly investing in the future of our world.

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